Paperback coming March 9, 2021!

About Judith

Judith Warner, author of the new book, And Then They Stopped Talking to Me: Making Sense of Middle School, is best known for her 2005 New York Times best-seller, Perfect Madness: Motherhood in the Age of Anxiety, and New York Times column, “Domestic Disturbances.” She is currently a Senior Fellow at the Center for American Progress, specialized in women's leadership and work-family policy, and recently completed a journalism fellowship for the Women Donors Network’s Reflective Democracy Campaign. Her last book, We've Got Issues: Children and Parents in the Age of Medication, won multiple awards from mental health advocacy and education organizations, including the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry.

About And Then They Stopped Talking to Me

The French have a name for the uniquely hellish years between elementary school and high school: l’âge ingrat, or “the ugly age.” Characterized by a perfect storm of developmental changes—physical, psychological, and social—the middle school years are a time of great distress for children and parents alike, marked by hurt, isolation, exclusion, competition, anxiety, and often outright cruelty. Some of this is inevitable; there are intrinsic challenges to early adolescence. But these years are harder than they need to be, and Judith Warner believes that adults are complicit.

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Praise for Judith's Work

“Judith Warner brilliantly challenges the assumption that middle school has to be a chalkboard jungle, offering both fascinating social history and practical advice on a life stage that sends many adults into a PTSD spiral. She shows how, by compassionately revisiting their own pasts, parents can truly support early adolescents in developing the building blocks for long-term happiness and resilience, ultimately making those years better—for ourselves and, most importantly, for our children.”

—Peggy Orenstein, author of Boys & Sex and Girls & Sex

“Manifestos blast their way into the popular consciousness on two kinds of fuel: recognition (we see ourselves in them) and rage (we can no longer tolerate the injustice they describe). Judith Warner’s Perfect Madness brims with both.”

The New York Times Book Review

“Readers love Judith Warner because she is open, honest, attuned, and curious… The result is a caring and informed book that will earn the trust and loyalty of a wide audience.”

—Peter D. Kramer, author of Listening to Prozac (on We’ve Got Issues)